Couplehood

It’s the challenging -for some- state of embracing another person to synchronize his/her life into yours.

Something like a hug…it is a human mosaic of two arms intersecting to hold for a common existence and close shared affection.

I find it challenging because i am a loner by nature…I live by my own personal rules and inside my head most of the time…so giving in my space…accepting another’s…indulging common living is not easy for me…especially that i’ve been single for a long time.

And counter to couplehood is singlehood…the latter is such a spacious comfort zone where you’re never challenged to cope/approve/accept or make room for another person to rest in your life.

This spacious comfort zone is amazingly worry free…where you never worry to get hurt or be neglected or be cheated or pay any price just for being in someone else’s life…but it is also vacant at times…a sort of vacancy that is hollow and cold that you would ache from longing to a human close interaction of a romantic kind…but those longing cold achy feelings are like hot flashes…they’d come and go…if you focus just in them you would be stealing the happiness of singlehood away…if not…you’d be happy, relationship stress free and in control, and i like that a lot.

Which brings me back to couplehood…when you hand over part of your control…willingly yet unconciously…and just keep your fingers always crossed that you won’t find yourself riding in a car near a cliff with a very reckless driver…or that is just me and my trust issues and worrying nature…but…as i am naturally sceptical, i am naturally fond of romance and opening my arms and heart for the hug and giving some of myself to someone worthy of my passion…and i find myself never losing faith of the value of love…the pleasure it holds…and the warmth it wraps my world with…And in love i have faith…and that drags me unintentionally to blindfold myself from the fact that people mistreat that faith and repeatedly try, hopelessly, to corrupt it.

That being said…I think the most perfect relationship is the one that has enough soul to withhold the peace of mind of singlehood with the peace of heart of couplehood.

myth?

Well…It’s a worthy mythical adventure.