We all have been taught howآ WE must learn to accept fate and what is written for us.
We all have been told How we must react when something hateful happens to us.
We must thank allah ,then say..allahuma ajerna fe mosebatna wa ekhlofna khairan menha..
The prophet (PBUH) taught us this do3a2 in hard times when alsayeda om salama,lost her loving husband to death,and she was sad,very very sad because she loved him so much that she used to recite poetry expressing how great a husband he were.
When the prophet met her and saw her crying he taught her the do3a2.and later on allah did grant her maybe the only better man in her eyes…the prophet himself!!
Was it hard on her to say it?
I’d imagine that it is..asking allah to give me better than what i had when i had what meant the world to me and filled me with loving feelings isn’t an easy thing.it’s like betraying him..it’sآ as if he didn’t mean that much so i’ll be asking for a better one now!!
When it’s easy ofcourse if he were a bad husband,then,normally i would want what is better if i really still have nefs for someone else!!
I guess it’s a matter of heart,a matter of believing in what allah may offer me.
Accepting the loss of someone you really love is the hardest task.
We should try to alter the thought..it is accepting allah’s fate that we should work on.
And who knows what allah may give us?!!
may allah have mercy on us.