What rocks your boat?!!

I read it on Qwaider’s and it made me Want to talk about it..

Looks, what it means to us?


Every body cares what his kids or a friend’s kid look like…we tend to like cute babies…extra beautiful ones have an easy life ahead of them from the day they saw light all the way up to education and marriage and work…people tend to worship beauty!!


Every body cares about the looks of his mate…wether male or female…

Everyone get to have a certain impression about their friends when they see them for the first time, and usually it is based on looks…

You’d find yourself liking your dentist if he/she looked good:S


Exceptions hit that just like everything else…it raises most eye brows when ever we see a very very handsome man deeply in love with a woman who is really really unattractive…and vice a versa…


So…what rocks their boats? What rocks your boat??!!


I think that we get used to how our friends, kids and spouses look like after a while…and we get attached to the soul and personality behind any degree of looks…

Some times people fall for someone who is obviously having a serious flaw…and they fall in love at first sight…how come??

What would touch you more? The loving look in his/her eyes when he/she looks at you or the color of it?


Spirits bond, think how does blind people fall in love?آ آ آ آ آ 

How do a lot of unprivileged mental patients fall in love? They even tend to be more romantic than any ordinary couple…

It’s the spiritual bond that meets, attracts, love and find home in the others heart…


Can we discipline our passion in certain categories when it comes to looks?

Can someone who was always into very skinny girls accept and love a big girl?

Can a girl who always liked athletes care for someone with a huge belly?


This can happen if with time they got to know the other person and there was a spiritual attraction…but can it happen at first sight?

Believe me it can…آ  spiritآ  can do that or how would a married man still find his wife irresistible even after she develops the pregnancy stretch marks and the saggy stuff here and there?


Have you watched “SHREK”…great example:P

I love it and I find it more suitable to grown ups than kids..begad!!


The main point here is not only that we must train ourselves to judge less regarding to looks and maybe with time we’ll find our selves looking beneath all the layers…

But also that we must train ourselves to think highly about US regardless how we look…

If I am someone who gains or looses self esteem from how I look .. then I’m having a serious problem…cause then I maybe smart and funny and kind and pretty too but I won’t know it or feel it..And believe me that will add lots of ugliness upon me that people would find me unattractive…while confidence has a great affect to make me glow with inner and outer beauty…


Come on…ma bedha kol hal 2adJJآ 

16 thoughts on “LOOKS !!

  1. had elpost masro2 minny kont bedy aktoboh 😦

    yes3edly eyake 3ala halpost ma a7lah:)

    had el7aky jd mazboot w yes momken from the first time you like someone who is not handsome at all but something about him may attract you and this thing has nothing to do with the look its much much deeper.

    But you know something ?! sometimes the look makes difference , you may hate something about the guy’s look to a limit that you can never be with him even if you like his character and even if he is a great man and even if he loves you and you love his soul.

    The look shouldnt be the basic when we choose our partener but it plays an important role sometimes.

    Yes I know the man will love his wife forever even if she is not as beautiful as she was and vise versa but if they dont care about how they look at all especially the woman , momken yseer ye6alla3 3albanat eltanyeen belzat fi 3asr elfada2eyyat allah ye2ta3hom.

    if they love each other they should care about how they look because its important for their relationship.

    for example , eza howwe be7ebny n7eefeh , mo daroory addalny akol w ansa7 w ma al3ab reyada … eza ana ba7ebo elmafrod enny a3mal elly be7ebo 6ol ma howwe had elshi mo ghalat w byes3edo w a7san la2ely fi elnehayeh.
    bs had elshi elmafrood ykon min el6arafain ya3ny mo bs elbint elly lazem tdeer balha 3ala shakelha meshano , l2 howwe kaman lazem ye3mal hek la2ano zai ma howwe be6la3 w beshof heyye kaman betshof w madam be2daro enhom yes3edo ba3ad w y7afzo 3ala 7alhom w 3ala ba3ad leh l2 ? s7 ?! 3ala fekra ana ma ba3ared kalamek w ba3raf ennek ma bet3ardeeny bs hai mojarrad fekra edafeyyeh 🙂

    what you wrote is soooo beautiful.


  2. Hi Caller!

    Excellently said: )

    Being caring, trustworthy, and honest in addition to being pretty best turn me on as a person. But looks never reflect permanent attachment nor do they grant you unconditional love and passion.

    Souls they match together, I was thrilled when I had a better understanding what this really means. But I have a question here: Any kind of string between this and "elqa2 al sakeeneh fe al qoloob" as God Al Mighty said in Quran?

    Can you spot a light on this please?

    Take care and keep calling! lol


  3. Asalam 3alaykom,
    7ala,enty betakly 7alawa kteer??:):)
    eh el7alawa de ya benty?:)

    Heya edafah bedoon shak..
    but what will he do when she gains 15 kg in pregnancy?
    what if la sama7 allah something bad happened to one of them and he looses something aw keda?
    elfekra,en elroo7 ta3shaq..roo7.
    El3een to7eb moshahadat..ezay ba2a n3awed nafsena,en meqyas elroo7 hoa elly ykoon ghaleb?

    bas tab3an lao ba7eb goozy awe oo hoa za3lan men shakly 7asala7o..
    bas 3ala fekra,elly bey6ala3 bezyada..7ayefddal keda 7ata lao kan metgawez mmmmmmmmm ana:D:D:D
    bahazar:) masalan,meen 7elw awe elyoumeen dool:D:D
    ah…charlize therone!!
    big hug:)


  4. Asalam 3alaykom
    Thank you fadi for giving me the time:)
    ط§ظ„ظ†ط¨ظ‰ طµظ„ظ‰ ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ط¹ظ„ظٹظ‡ ظˆ ط³ظ„ظ… ظ‚ط§ظ„: ط§ظ„ظ‚ظ„ظˆط¨ ط¨ظٹظ† ط§طµط§ط¨ط¹ ط§ظ„ط±ط­ظ…ظ†..
    ط§طµظ„ط§ ط§ط­ظ†ط§ ظƒط§ط±ظˆط§ط­ ط·ط¨ظٹط¹ظ‰ ظ†ط§طھظ„ظپ ط§ظˆ ظ†ط®طھظ„ظپ ظ…ط¹ ط¨ط¹ط¶ظ†ط§ ط§ظ„ط¨ط¹ط¶..
    ط§ظ„ط³ظƒظٹظ†ظ‡ ط¯ظ‰ ظ…ظ† ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡..ظ…ط§ظ„ظ‡ط§ط´ ط³ط¨ط¨..ط±ط²ظ‚ ظˆ ظ†ط¹ظ…ظ‡ ظ„ط§ ظٹظ…ظ„ظƒظ‡ط§ ط§ظ„ط§ ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡
    ظˆ ط§ظ„ظ…ظ‡ظ… ظپظٹظ‡ط§ ط§ظ†ظ‡ط§ ظ…ط¤ط´ط± ظ‡ط§ظ… ط¬ط¯ط§ ط¨ظ„ ط§ظ„ط§ظ‡ظ… ط¹ظ„ظ‰ ط§ظ† ط§ظ„ط´ط®طµ ط¯ظ‡ ظ…ظ†ط§ط³ط¨ ظ„ظ†ط§ ط¬ط¯ط§ ط¬ط¯ط§..
    ظٹط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظٹط§ ط¨ظ†ظ‰…ط¹ظ„ظ‰ ط¨ط±ظƒط© ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡:)


  5. tO ME… we are living the days where blindness covered all hearts ..
    looks matters and i don’t beleive any who says no … even if you don’t care at a second deep inside u’ll see u do … you can’t argue about things that are out of hand .. and those examples we see are just signs for the Good Looking to behave or tehy will end up sleeping with big belly blue and saggy maggy ::
    ط­ظƒظ…ط© ط§ظ„ط§ط³ط¨ظˆط¹
    "iza el wa7ad 7as 7alo 7mar kol el nas bitshofo 7mar o al 3aks sa7ee7 … "


  6. Asalam 3alaykom,
    Mias* my dear,7abebty..not all hearts,proof?..you!!

    No one said it doesn’t affect..it does..but it shouldn’t..
    guess what? reality says that handsome men are lousy lovers..they think so much about themselves that they ignore their wives completly,women adores great macho romantic characters..at the end..they learn that they do..

    Men..like the feminism more than looks,i saw that all my life,when a man would marry another one who looks like a monkey and leave a full moon..why?? resourcfull!!

    Friends: do u love your friend because you like her looks?
    tayeb..why did you and i like each other so much even though we didn’t see eachother but recently?
    the spirit..that is so strong a bond than a million dollars,and a merylin look..

    and 7ekmet el2osboo3 is exactly what i meant by this post..only with a twist..
    if i see myself unattractive,it will add a blue shade on my face..
    if i see myself as a blessed human being who is worthwhile and precious..people would see me a glowing gem..
    love u gem:)


  7. All can say, Beauty comes from within. I feel that a person who may be beautiful/handsome on the outside is not that great looking as one who radiates beauty from within.


  8. Nice post the caller…the most superficial thing you can do is marry or have friends based on looks. I know so many stories of how people discovered the difficult way that beauty is nothing at all if there is no beauty of the sprit.


  9. 7ekam betna22at men tommek 🙂 ..

    I liked this post .. and it does actually tackle an important issue for me .. we get used to the looks of our friends and family members , that we no longer pay attention to it with time.. i guess same would happen with significant other only if the spiritual attraction ws already there ..

    I have to admit , that looks may be the laminating cover for a person that would attract us physically , however, it’s not until they speak up and talk so that we’d check for the spiritual attraction .. yet .. i still cannot feel very comfortable for the idea of falling in love from first sight ..


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