DWS..

I’ve seen it all my life.the way women react when they get divorced or even break up with a fiance..DWS: divorced woman syndrome…

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I’m talking here about the type thatآ was forced into it by a bad husband..Who would leave her for another or throw her away when he’d done with her type!!

Not the type who’s unfair and is playing with her husband’s feelings..or the type that had to get it causeآ she had horrible marriage!!

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She would feel unworthy..lost..ugly(even if she’s super pretty)..Lonelier than a rock in space..she would feel dependente,but has no one to depend on..

She’d try to show off..dress extra elegant and at times, extra sexy..would put much makeup..and look for any kind of attention..from a look to more..any kind word would get her into trouble, cause being in a relation in that state is a pure lie that could beآ  a disaster if she let herself follow that false feeling..

No healing for that crack inside her femininity but time..and time heals..time doesn’t cure totally or make the scar vanish..but it calms the pain..and time would calm her pain..but another great marriage would cure it forever..

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The other two types are a different story..

Theآ woman who would leave her husband unfairly would be stronger cause she must ‘ve had a hidden agenda..

And the woman who had to get a divorce cause life became impossible wouldآ sometimes feel scared,lost and lonelier than a rock in space..but her sight would be clearer,more focused and knows what she wants..and in time,hopefuly she would be better than ever..full of confidence and self esteem..after all sheآ has nothing to regret..she wasn’t unfair..probably she tried her best…and surly she deserves what’s better..

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**That what the symptoms of the syndrome…What is the cure??

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آ آ آ آ  People do themselves a lot of injustice when they trey to refer to their minds to set social rules rather than giving in to Allah’s rules in quran and sunnah..

*The prophet and the prophet companions dealt with marriage in the exact way that Allah wanted us to deal with..so..we never heard inآ 7yat alsa7abah..about struggles after divorce orآ nasty maneuvers from any party…NO..on the contrary…a couple would marry to maintain love,comfort and mercy between them and would stay like ..and if that isn’t happening any more..they would separate decently and quietly just as they got married in the first place..back then..remarriage wasn’t a big deal and people didn’t point out the divorced woman or man as a freak like now a days..

We even never heard of problems with their kids or who would have them..it was regulated and they obeyed…

We all know the first 7adeeth in “alkhol3e”..the prophet didn’t ask the lady who wanted to leave her good husband just because she didn’t love him..the prophet didn’t ask her twice,nor asked about the kids,nor told her to reconsider…

And SHE IS SA7ABIA ..MA3AHA SHAHADET AN ALLAH RADYA 3ANHA!!!

Why ?? because Allah made marriage to regulate relations between men and woman and that would guarantee their loyalty and purity..and staying with a manآ sheid despise would putآ her in risk of looking at another…so Islam is a great amazing religion..cause Allah knows our inner selves..and sunnah deals with that …only if we maintain it in our lives and make it our only scale…andآ  nothing else counts!!!

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16 thoughts on “DWS..

  1. ط³ظ„ط§ظ… ط¹ظ„ظٹظƒظ…

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    ط§ظ„ظ„ظٹ ط¨ظٹط®ظ„طµ ط§ظ„ظ†ظٹط© ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظپظٹ ط§ظٹ ط¹ظ„ط§ظ‚ط© ط²ظˆط§ط¬ ط§ظˆ ط´ط±ظƒط© ط§ظˆ ط§ظٹ ط¹ظ…ظ„ ظ„ظٹظ‡ ط¹ظ„ط§ظ‚ط© ط¨ط§ظ„ط¹ط¨ط§ط¯ ظˆط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظ…ط§ ط¨ظٹط¶ظٹط¹ ط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظˆ ط¸ظ†طھ ط§ظ„ظ…ط±ط§ط© ط§ظ† ط§ظ„ط·ظ„ط§ظ‚ ط¯ظ„ظٹظ„ ظپط´ظ„ظ‡ط§ ظ„ط§ظ† ط¯ظ‡ ط­ظƒظ… ط§ظ„ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ طŒ ظˆط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظˆ ط¸ظ† ط§ظ„ط±ط¬ظ„ ط§ظ†ظ‡ ظٹط³طھط­ظ‚ ط§ظ…ط±ط§ط© ط§ظپط¶ظ„ ظ…ظ† ظ…ط±ط§طھظ‡ طŒ ظˆط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظˆ ظ‚ط¯ط± ط±ط¨ظ†ط§ ط§ظ† ط§طھظ†ظٹظ† ظƒظˆظٹط³ظٹظ† ظٹطھط¬ظˆط²ظˆط§ ظˆظ„ط§ ظٹظˆظپظ‚ظˆط§ ظپظٹ ط­ظٹط§طھظ‡ظ… ظپظ‚ط· ظ„ط§ط®طھظ„ط§ظپ ط·ط¨ط§ط¹ظ‡ظ…

    ظ‚ظ†ط§ط¹طھظٹ ط¯ط§ظٹظ…ط§ ط§ظ† ط§ظ„ظ„ظٹ ظٹط¨ط¯ط§ طµط­ ظ…ظٹط²ط¹ظ„ط´ ظ…ظ† ط§ظٹ ظ†ظ‡ط§ظٹط© ط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظˆ ظƒط§ظ† ط¶ط­ظٹط© طŒ ظˆط§ظ„ظ„ظٹ ظٹط¨ط¯ط§ ط؛ظ„ط· ظ…ظٹط²ط¹ظ„ط´ ظ…ظ† ط§ظٹ ظ†ظ‡ط§ظٹط© ط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظˆ ظƒط§ظ† ط¶ط­ظٹط© ط¨ط±ط¶ظ‡

    ط§ظ„ط­ظٹط§ط© ظ„ظˆ ظ†ظ…ط´ظٹظ‡ط§ ط¨ظ…ط¨ط¯ط§ ط¹ط¨ط§ط¯ط© ط±ط¨ظ†ط§ ظˆط·ط§ط¹طھظ‡ ظپظٹ ظƒظ„ ط´ظٹط، ظ‡طھظپط±ظ‚ ظ…ط¹ط§ظ†ط§ ط§ظ„ظ†طھط§ظٹط¬ ط¨ط³ظ„ط¨ظٹط§طھظ‡ط§ ظˆط§ظٹط¬ط§ط¨ظٹطھظ‡ط§ ظˆظ‡ظٹط®طھظ„ظپ ط´ط¹ظˆط±ظ†ط§ ظپظٹ طھظ‚ط¨ظ„ظ‡ط§ ط¨ط±ط¶ط§ ظˆطھط³ظ„ظٹظ… ط¨ظ‚ط¶ط§ط، ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظ…ط§ ط¯ظ…ظ†ط§ ط§ط­ط³ظ†ط§ ط§ظ„ط³ط¹ظٹ ظˆط§ظ„ط§ط®ط° ط¨ط§ظ„ط§ط³ط¨ط§ط¨ طµط­

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  2. ط§ظ„ط³ظ„ط§ظ… ط¹ظ„ظٹظƒظ…..ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظٹظ†ظˆط± ط¹ظ„ظٹظƒ ظٹط§ ط¹ط¨ط¯ ط§ظ„ط±ط­ظ…ظ†:)
    ط§ظ†ط§ ظ‚ظ„طھ ظ…ظ† ط²ظ…ط§ظ† ط§ظ†ظƒ ط¨طھظپظ‡ظ…:)
    ط²ظ‰ ظ…ط§ ط§ظ†طھ ظپظ„طھ ظƒط¯ظ‡..ط§ظ„ظ…ظپط±ظˆط¶ ظ†ط¨ظ‚ظ‰ ظ…ط¤ظ…ظ†ظٹظ† ط¨ظٹظ‡ط§ ظ„ظƒظ† ط¨ظ†ظ†ط³ط§..ط¨ط³ ظ…ط´ ط¨ط³ ط¨ظ†ظ†ط³ط§.ظ„ط§ .. ط§ط­ظ†ط§ ط¨ظ†ط³طھط¹ط¨ط·..
    ظ…ط§ط­ط¯ط´ ط­ظٹط¹ط¯ظ„ ط¹ظ„ظ‰ ظƒظ„ط§ظ… ط±ط¨ظ†ط§ ظˆ ظٹظپظ„ط­..
    ظˆ ظ…ط¨ط¯ط£ظƒ طµط­ ط¬ط¯ط§ ظ…ط§ ط´ط§ط، ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡..ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‰ ظٹط¨ط¯ط§ طµط­ ظ…ط§ ظٹط²ط¹ظ„ط´ ظ…ظ† ط§ظ‰ ظ†ظ‡ط§ظٹظ‡..
    ط§ظ„ط­ظ…ط¯ ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظٹط§ ط¹ط¨ط¯ ط§ظ„ط±ط­ظ…ظ†..ط§ظ„ط­ظ…ط¯ ظ„ظ„ظ‡

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  3. ط§ظ„ط³ظ„ط§ظ… ط¹ظ„ظٹظƒظ… ظٹط§ ظ‚ظ…ط±ط§ظٹط© 🙂
    ظƒظ„ ط´ظ‡ط± ط±ظ…ط¶ط§ظ† ظˆ ط§ظ†طھ ط¨ط§ظ„ظپ ط®ظٹط± ظٹط§ ط±ط¨
    ط§ظٹظ‡ ط§ظ„ظ…ظˆط¶ظˆط¹ ط§ظ„ط¬ط§ظ…ط¯ ط¯ظ‡ طں 🙂
    ظٹط§ ط¨ظ†طھظٹ ظٹط§ ط­ط¨ظٹط¨طھظٹ ظٹط§ ظ…ط§ ظ†ط§ط³ ط§ظ†ط¸ظ„ظ…ظˆط§ ظ…ظ† ط§ظ‚ط±ط¨ ط§ظ„ظ†ط§ط³ ظ„ظ‡ظ… ظپظƒظٹظپ ط§ط°ط§ ظƒط§ظ† ط´ط®طµ ط؛ط±ظٹط¨ ظˆ ط¨ظ†ظٹطھظ‡ ظ…ط´ط±ظˆط¹ ط¬ظˆط§ط² ظ…ط§ ظٹط­ظ…ظ„ط´ ط§ظٹط§ ظ…ط´ط§ط¹ط± ط§ظƒظٹط¯ ط­ظٹظ†طھظ‡ظٹ ط¨ظƒط§ط±ط«ط© ظ„ط§ظ† ط§ظ„ظ†ط§ط³ ظ…ط§ طھظ‚ط¯ط±ط´ طھط­ط· ظ‚ظ„ط¨ظ‡ط§ ط¨ط«ظ„ط§ط¬ط© ,ظˆ ط§ظ„ظ„ظٹ ظٹظ‚ط¯ط± ط±ط­ ظٹط¯ظˆط± ط¨ط±ط© ط¨ظٹطھظ‡ ظˆ ظ‡ظ†ط§ ط­ظ†ط¯ط®ظ„ ظپظٹ ط§ظ„ط­ط±ط§ظ… ظˆ ط§ظ„ظ„ط°ظٹ ظ…ظ†ظ‡ ط§ط­ظ†ط§ ظ…ط§ظ„ظ†ط§ ظˆ ظ…ط§ظ„ ط§ظ„ط­ط§ط¬ط§طھ ط¯ظٹ 🙂
    now really let me get serious a little when two persons feel that they cannot leave together anymore,the divorce is the best result ,life is short to live in pain ,being fair is the minimum,marriage is love,understanding,mercy and respect b4 anything else ,when those things complete each other we will have a successful commitment ,other wise brake it is better

    great way of explaining habibte ,khallile eyeke ya rab 🙂

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  4. Shoof elnas elly betefham..ya salam 3aleeky enty ya amar…7ekam wallahi:):)
    ramadan mobarak ya 7abebty..ya rab yeb2a kolo kheer oo baraka:)

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  5. ظ„ظ„ط£ط³ظپ ط§ظ„ظ…ط±ط£ط© ظپظٹ ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ظ†ط§ ط¹ظ†ط¯ظ…ط§ ظٹط­ط¯ط« ط§ظ„ط·ظ„ط§ظ‚ طھط´ط¹ط± ط£ظ† ط­ظٹط§طھظ‡ط§ ظ‚ط¯ طھظˆظ‚ظپطھ ط¹ظ†ط¯ ظ‡ط°ظ‡ ط§ظ„ظ†ظ‚ط·ط© طŒ ط·ط¨ط¹ط§ ط§ظ†ط§ ظ„ط§ ط£ظ„ظˆظ…ظ‡ط§ ظˆ ط§ظ†ظ…ط§ ط£ظ„ظˆظ… ظ†ط¸ط±ط© ط§ظ„ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ ط§ظ„ظ‰ ط§ظ„ظ…ط±ط£ط© ط§ظ„ظ…ط·ظ„ظ‚ط© ظƒط£ظ†ظ‡ط§ ط¹ط§ط±. ط­طھظ‰ ط¨ط¹ط¶ ط§ظ„ط±ط¬ط§ظ„ ط¹ظ†ط¯ظ…ط§ ظٹط­ط¯ط« ط§ظ„ط·ظ„ط§ظ‚ ظپظٹ ط­ظٹط§طھظ‡ظ… ظٹظپظ‚ط¯ظˆظ† طھظˆط§ط²ظ†ظ‡ظ… طŒ ظ…ظ†ظ‡ظ… ظ…ظ† ظٹط³طھط¹ظٹط¯ طھظˆط§ط²ظ†ظ‡ ط³ط±ظٹط¹ط§ ظˆ ظ…ظ†ظ‡ظ… ظ…ظ† ظٹظپظ‚ط¯ظ‡ ظ„ظپطھط±ط© ط·ظˆظٹظ„ط© ظپظٹط´ط¹ط± ط¨ط§ظ„ط¶ظٹط§ط¹ ط±ط؛ظ… ط§ظ„ظ‚ظˆط© ظˆ ط¹ط¯ظ… ط§ظ„ط§ظ‡طھظ…ط§ظ… ط§ظ„ط°ظٹ ظٹط¸ظ‡ط± ط¹ظ„ظٹظ‡ ط§ظ…ط§ظ… ط§ظ„ظ†ط§ط³ .

    ظˆ ط¨ط§ظ„ط·ط¨ط¹ ظ‡ظ†ط§ظƒ ظ„ظˆظ… ط§ظٹط¶ط§ ط¹ظ„ظ‰ ط§ظ„ظ…ط±ط£ط© ط§ظ„طھظٹ طھطھط±ظƒ ط¢ط±ط§ط، ط§ظ„ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ طھط¤ط«ط± ط¨ظ‡ط§ ظپطھط­طµط± ظ†ظپط³ظ‡ط§ ظپظٹ ط§ظ„ط¨ظٹطھ ط¨ط®ط¬ظ„ ط¹ظ„ظ‰ ط§ظ…ظ„ ط£ظ† ظٹط£طھظٹ ظ…ظ† ظٹط­ط³ظ† ط§ظ„ظٹظ‡ط§ ظˆ ظٹطھط²ظˆط¬ظ‡ط§ طŒ ط­طھظ‰ ط§ظ†ظ‡ط§ طھظ‚ط¨ظ„ ط¨ط±ط¬ظ„ ظƒط¨ظٹط± ط¬ط¯ط§ ط¨ط§ظ„ط³ظ† ط£ظˆ ط؛ظٹط± ظ…ظ†ط§ط³ط¨ ط£ظˆ ط؛ظٹط±ظ‡ ظƒظٹ طھظ†طھظ‡ظٹ ظ…ظ† ظ‡ط°ط§ ط§ظ„ط¹ط°ط§ط¨ ط§ظ„ظ…ط³ظ…ظ‰ "ظ…ط·ظ„ظ‚ط©" طŒ ط£ط¹طھظ‚ط¯ ط£ظ† ظ‡ط°ظ‡ ظ…ظ† ط§ظ„ط§ظ…ظˆط± ط§ظ„ط§ط³ط§ط³ظٹط© ط§ظ„طھظٹ ظٹط¬ط¨ ط£ظ† ظ†ط؛ظٹط±ظ‡ط§ ظپظٹ ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ظ†ط§ . ط­طھظ‰ ط£ظ†ظ†ط§ ظ†ط±ظپط¶ ط£ظ† ظ†ظ‚ط¨ظ„ ظ„ط§ط®ظˆط§ظ†ظ†ط§ ط£ظ† ظٹطھط²ظˆط¬ ط§ظ„ظˆط§ط­ط¯ ظ…ظ†ظ‡ظ… ط§ظ…ط±ط£ط© ظ…ط·ظ„ظ‚ط© ط­طھظ‰ ط§ظ† ظƒط§ظ†طھ ط§ظ†ط³ط§ظ†ط© ط±ط§ط¦ط¹ط© ظˆ ظ…ظ…ظٹط²ط© … ظˆ ظƒط°ظ„ظƒ ظƒط«ظٹط± ظ…ظ† ط§ظ„ط§ط¨ط§ط، ظٹط±ظپط¶ظˆظ† طھط²ظˆظٹط¬ ط¨ظ†ط§طھظ‡ظ… ظ„ط±ط¬ط§ظ„ ظƒط§ظ†طھ ظ„ظ‡ظ… طھط¬ط§ط±ط¨ ط²ظˆط§ط¬ ط³ط§ط¨ظ‚ط© … ظٹط§ ط¬ظ…ط§ط¹ط© ظ„ظˆظ„ط§ ط£ظ† ط§ظ„ط²ظˆط§ط¬ ظ‚ط§ط¨ظ„ ظ„ط¹ط¯ظ… ط§ظ„ط§ط³طھظ…ط±ط§ط±ظٹط© ظ„ظ…ط§ ط´ط±ط¹ ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ط§ظ„ط·ظ„ط§ظ‚ طŒ طµط­ظٹط­ ط£ظ†ظ‡ ط£ط¨ط؛ط¶ ط§ظ„ط­ظ„ط§ظ„ ظˆ ظ„ظƒظ†ظ‡ ط£ط­ظٹط§ظ†ط§ ظٹظƒظˆظ† ط£ظپط¶ظ„ ط§ظ„ط­ظ„ظˆظ„ ظ„ط¬ظ…ظٹط¹ ط§ظ„ط§ط·ط±ط§ظپ ط­طھظ‰ ظ„ظ„ط£ظˆظ„ط§ط¯ .

    ط¨ظƒظپظٹ ط³ط·ط­ظٹط© ظ…ط´ط§ظ† ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡

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  6. ط§ظ„ط³ظ„ط§ظ… ط¹ظ„ظٹظƒظ…..
    ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‡ ظٹظƒظ…ظ„ظƒ ط¨ط¹ظ‚ظ„ظƒ ظٹط§ ط­ظ„ط§ ظˆ ظٹط¹ط§ظپظٹظƒظ‰..
    ط¹ط´ط§ظ† ظƒط¯ظ‡..ظ„ط§ط²ظ… ظٹطھط؛ظٹط± ط§ظ„ظ…ظ‚ظٹط§ط³..ظˆ ط¯ظ‡ ط´ط؛ظ„ظ†ط§ ط§ط­ظ†ط§..ط´ط؛ظ„ط© ط§ظ„ظ„ظ‰ ظپط§ظ‡ظ…..ط¹ط´ط§ظ† ط¨ط¹ط¯ ط¬ظٹظ„ ط§ظˆ ط§طھظ†ظٹظ†..ظٹطھط؛ظٹط± ط§ظ„ظ…ط¬طھظ…ط¹ ط¨ط¬ط¯..

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  7. GREAT post dear!!
    If one feels more alonerwhile together with the partner – than REALLY alone … it is time to seperate! If life becomes a nigtmare when knowing the partner is around – there is NO point anymore in dragging on with this relation! I like what you wrote a LOT!!

    What’s your SKYPE-ID??
    Lov ya!! 🙂

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  8. Assalamu 3alaykum,
    I could not agree less with my beloved brother Abdurrahman. Yet I would like to emphasis a point here.
    I man and a woman who go through divorce go through a big shock, mentally and even physically as the metal health affect the physical one. There is no doubt about that.
    Imagine the pain of a man building a building and spend so much time and effort on building it, and all of a sudden crumbles before his own eyes. Well the only this in this case the family is more valuable of the building as it involves human beings with emotions and dreams they seek.
    We will not object to the will of Allah assuming that happens after so many efforts in restoring that family and still failed. A man or Woman who has gone through divorce should not be discriminated against in the society. Especially if they seek to remarry again. As we should encourage remarrying and we should not encourage the state of single hood.

    There is no punishment on a human than to be left single. If Allah agrees to that he would not have created Eve for Adam right after He created him. And notice, He created Eve from Adam and for Adam. How can a man live with a part of him away from him?

    And when a part is missing how can he behave or feel whole?
    Prophets have married except Jesus peace upon them all (and he will when he comes back).
    So being married is the natural stated of a man and woman.
    Any one denying that right to any of the two is Zalim. Accordingly such unjust look towards divorcee has to stop (after all most of people are now). Again careful selection of a mate should be based on Islam and not any thing else. Once you have done what you need to do before marriage don’t worry about the results whether elbateekha 7amra wella baidha 🙂

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  9. Asalam 3alaykom,
    dearset karin..well not all people see that..people love judging and they have to hear a horrible story to respect your decision..but we get to learn to never mind people..allah ‘s blessings are what’s important..
    thanks dear..
    ID..rasha..and u can search by my email..

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  10. Asalam 3alaykom,
    Abdullah..about the building thing..well,you’re right..only if he built or help build..but if he wasted it then he wouldn’t blame but him self..
    and i agree that humans can’t totally function in a right way,when alone..but if someone can’t find a match..they would have to deal and live anyway..
    Religion is the main scale one should choose upon..but not alone..i’ve known women who chose religious men who turned to be repulsive,and they couldn’t love them..and the other way around..
    religion is first and at the very least admiration must be second..
    your openions are always valuable to us..thank you:)

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  11. Well said.

    I want to commentate about the symptoms, they are true. Some women, even if they’re not divorced, are looking for attention! any kind of attention. They want to be loved and cherished, even by the wrong person! They think they’re not cute or they are not nancy ajram, so they want to someone to make them feel better, whoever this someone! and here comes the wrong choices and the other problems.

    Some women, as you said, looks for attention even if it’s a look, and that’s why they dress like a non-decent girl. There’s no execuse for those who don’t dress decentfuly!

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