I’ve seen it all my life.the way women react when they get divorced or even break up with a fiance..DWS: divorced woman syndrome…
I’m talking here about the type thatآ was forced into it by a bad husband..Who would leave her for another or throw her away when he’d done with her type!!
Not the type who’s unfair and is playing with her husband’s feelings..or the type that had to get it causeآ she had horrible marriage!!
She would feel unworthy..lost..ugly(even if she’s super pretty)..Lonelier than a rock in space..she would feel dependente,but has no one to depend on..
She’d try to show off..dress extra elegant and at times, extra sexy..would put much makeup..and look for any kind of attention..from a look to more..any kind word would get her into trouble, cause being in a relation in that state is a pure lie that could beآ a disaster if she let herself follow that false feeling..
No healing for that crack inside her femininity but time..and time heals..time doesn’t cure totally or make the scar vanish..but it calms the pain..and time would calm her pain..but another great marriage would cure it forever..
The other two types are a different story..
Theآ woman who would leave her husband unfairly would be stronger cause she must ‘ve had a hidden agenda..
And the woman who had to get a divorce cause life became impossible wouldآ sometimes feel scared,lost and lonelier than a rock in space..but her sight would be clearer,more focused and knows what she wants..and in time,hopefuly she would be better than ever..full of confidence and self esteem..after all sheآ has nothing to regret..she wasn’t unfair..probably she tried her best…and surly she deserves what’s better..
**That what the symptoms of the syndrome…What is the cure??
آ آ آ آ People do themselves a lot of injustice when they trey to refer to their minds to set social rules rather than giving in to Allah’s rules in quran and sunnah..
*The prophet and the prophet companions dealt with marriage in the exact way that Allah wanted us to deal with..so..we never heard inآ 7yat alsa7abah..about struggles after divorce orآ nasty maneuvers from any party…NO..on the contrary…a couple would marry to maintain love,comfort and mercy between them and would stay like ..and if that isn’t happening any more..they would separate decently and quietly just as they got married in the first place..back then..remarriage wasn’t a big deal and people didn’t point out the divorced woman or man as a freak like now a days..
We even never heard of problems with their kids or who would have them..it was regulated and they obeyed…
We all know the first 7adeeth in “alkhol3e”..the prophet didn’t ask the lady who wanted to leave her good husband just because she didn’t love him..the prophet didn’t ask her twice,nor asked about the kids,nor told her to reconsider…
And SHE IS SA7ABIA ..MA3AHA SHAHADET AN ALLAH RADYA 3ANHA!!!
Why ?? because Allah made marriage to regulate relations between men and woman and that would guarantee their loyalty and purity..and staying with a manآ sheid despise would putآ her in risk of looking at another…so Islam is a great amazing religion..cause Allah knows our inner selves..and sunnah deals with that …only if we maintain it in our lives and make it our only scale…andآ nothing else counts!!!